RAY HUSHPUPPI, DON'T GET 'HUSHED' SO USE THE RIGHT WORDS!!!

Nigerians are very interesting people sha! In this era where we are trying to come to terms with the new fuel price hike or is it the outrageous price of a few tomatoes… some of our youngsters still have the time…no I meant …the mind to upload some kinds of pictures captioned with  hate under –toned statements on social media.

I was going through an online article and I read one of such statements by one Nigerian, Ray Hushpuppi "I just attended a private VIP closed door Donna Fall Winter 2016 Preview and Uomo custom made Leather Cocktails Event at Versace, which I was once again the only black person at this event, none of you nuisance, noise makers was invited, No she males was there either to catch feelings and to God be the glory, it was a successful event and I had a wonderful experience, met worthy".

 

Just when I thought that was all, it continued "You know, even if I have a personal issue with someone, the fact that I ever interacted with them means at some point there was genuine love from me to them and because of that I have learnt to always make sure I wish them well.. with that same love. I like to see them achieve the goals I once sat and listened to them talk about, I could never use my time and energy to plot or await their demise. It's odd to me how strangers can anticipate and look forward to people's "failures"..the badmind weirdos are the ones I pity because if u are waiting on a person with as much anointing and self belief as I have in myself to lose.. You GON' wait faevaaahhh. I promise you it so beautiful on the opposite side of bitterness, hatred, resentment, anger, frustration and evil.

Dear Ray Hushpuppi, the information gathered says you are popular due to your high usage of Instagram. No hard feelings my dude. I applauded you at the beginning of the read but then got pissed when I got to the part where you had to use the words ‘nuisance’ ‘noise makers’ or ‘she males’ not invited. Such statements incite hate feelings and like someone commented after I read out your post “from the look of things it shows the guy is everything he’s called those not invited. He’s sure the noisemaker”. Given the pictures showing off bags from his shopping spree and the many hashtags of  #Gucci #Versace #Rolex #LouisLeeman #LouisVuitton #Hermes #Valentino #JustCavalli. That, to anybody speaks loads of ‘NOISE’.   

 

There’s been a lot going on about beefs on social media lately between couples and friends. It’s time to end the social media war-of-words. If someone has hurt you, call the person, have a one-on-one discussion and settle it out of the public eye. I guess it will do all the youngsters and even many of the so-called adults a breath of fresh air. Ray you can keep the nice pictures coming up but let go of the beef-undertoned-statements. 

Ray, use the right words, so you don't hushed!

TIWA SAVAGE, TEE BILLZ "GET YOUR ACTS TOGETHER"

These celebrities, you are proving by the day that being married is not meant for you guys at all, so why waste all that money and peoples’ time in having weddings when at the end of the day, they start crashing as soon as it’s started? I don’t get it.

I don’t know how authentic this is but then I read in one of the Nigerian dailies, the Vanguard a while ago that Mr. Tunji Balogun a.k.a Tee Billz Husband of the ‘kele kele’ love crooner, Tiwa Savage, had earlier this Thursday morning sent  a number of posts on Instagram which has sent tongues wagging all over the place.

According to the report, the posts alleged that Tee Billz is on a contemplation of either ending his marriage to Tiwa Savage or commit suicide as he is “so sick of pretending that everything is alright, because it’s not”. At that point I am wondering when did this trend of ‘wanting to commit suicide’ start in Nigeria. In the past, you only hear about such happenings abroad but not in Nigeria. It was RARE! Now all of a sudden, you hear of how one man or woman took his/her life for one issue or the other. Haba!

Nigerians are known to be tough skinned/hearted people who can withstand any situation, so what happened? If you think on the contrary, look at the situation we are in at the moment in the country, a lot of us are still believing ‘when there is life there is hope’ slogan as we are still on the hustle lane and making the best of the situation. We still find time to make jokes out of the whole serious and even life threatening situations all around us. In fact, the whole world should be giving Nigeria a standing ovation as the country with the highest number of ‘egbe wedgers’ that is ‘strong people’ as the typical Edo/Bini man would simply put it.

I also gathered from the paper that part of Tee Billz post read “I hope the f**king in Tiwa Savage brand brings you peace. I used my money, soul and everything I had for you and everyone knows how I hustled hard with passion for you to get to where you are today. You will find peace with your career”. Then trust Nigerians to be quick in replying when it comes to such issues. 

 

One person’s reply caught my attention and it said “such a shame!! That’s why my pastor says that choosing your life partner is the greatest career choice you will ever make!!!! More like the greatest life choice one will ever make.

I kinda agreed with that reply to an extent as it got me thinking. But then again, the truth is you can never get it ALL right no matter how smart/tactical you are or how long it takes you to eventually choose a LIFE partner. It takes God and sometimes ‘Luck’ to get somebody near perfect, but trust me; you can NEVER get a perfect person because on our own, we aren’t perfect as well, so why do you expect a perfect partner?

Please don’t get it twisted, I am not taking sides with either parties *I WILL NEVER DO THAT*. The thing is, ‘ALL MARRIAGES HAVE ISSUES EVERY NOW AND THEN’ but it is how the issues are handled that matters. It is not a matter of saying “I’m sorry I must have disappointed you guys. I just don’t have the strength to fight this battle anymore.  May God forgive me and accept my soul in peace”. If you asked me Tee Billz, I would say “that’s trash’.

You will not disappoint anybody but yourself if you don’t get your acts together and stand like the man you are. Doing anything silly would confirm the many rumours of the past that you were truly intimidated by the fame and success of your wife Tiwa Savage and also the claims that you’ve been violently attacking her at home.

And again, guess what? You won’t be here to testify whether the so many things that will be said about you when you are gone, are true or false. Memories of you will go *fingers clicking* in a flash just like that. If according to you, she had ‘100% insecurity’ when you met her, who do you think will be called ‘insecured’ when you take your life?

Before I let go on this, I need clarification on a part of the Instagram posts where Tee Billz allegedly wrote “to you Mr. Ibrahim Olatunji Balogun Snr….I tried my best not to be like you but instead of focusing on being a better person, I was worried about not wanting to be like you. I reached out and cry to you as my father but all you care about is yourself and your money… I ended up having kids like you by multiple women and my first marriage and only marriage didn’t make it to 2years just like the one you had with my mum. Why the f**k did God Make you my father”.

When I read that, I got a bit more confused. Nevertheless, it shows there is more to this Tiwa and Tee Billz marriage ‘wahala’ than meets the eye. Apparently, from all indications, Tee Billz is not only bitter with Tiwa Savage and the allegations of her infidelity with Don Jazzy, Tu Face, Dr. Sid and the rest of the ‘accused’, he is also bitter towards his father. Hmmm! Until we get the rest of the story, let’s just keep our fingers crossed and not take part in any ‘blame game’ yet.

My candid advice, “Tiwa and Tee Billz, sort yourselves out in your closet. Every marriage has issues, how you handle yours is up to you. Think more about the Good times together, maybe that would help".

Husband of songstress, Tiwa Savage, Mr. Tunji Balogun a.k.a Tee Billz on Thursday posted several posts on Instagram, alleging that he’s contemplating between committing suicide or ending his his marriage to the talented singer. tiwaa In the past couple of years, Tee Billz, who manages Tiwa Savage, has been accused of domestic violence – but both parties have never spoken on the matter. At some point, it was rumoured that Tee Billz was intimidated by the fame and success of the singer, hence his resorting to inflicting physical pains on her. Again, this claim has never been confirmed. See some of his posts teebillz teebillz3 teebillz2 teebillz5

Read more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/04/tiwa-savages-hubby-threatens-to-commit-suicide-over-wifes-alleged-infidelity/

Husband of songstress, Tiwa Savage, Mr. Tunji Balogun a.k.a Tee Billz on Thursday posted several posts on Instagram, alleging that he’s contemplating between committing suicide or ending his his marriage to the talented singer. tiwaa In the past couple of years, Tee Billz, who manages Tiwa Savage, has been accused of domestic violence – but both parties have never spoken on the matter. At some point, it was rumoured that Tee Billz was intimidated by the fame and success of the singer, hence his resorting to inflicting physical pains on her. Again, this claim has never been confirmed. See some of his posts teebillz teebillz3 teebillz2 teebillz5

Read more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/04/tiwa-savages-hubby-threatens-to-commit-suicide-over-wifes-alleged-infidelity/

Husband of songstress, Tiwa Savage, Mr. Tunji Balogun a.k.a Tee Billz on Thursday posted several posts on Instagram, alleging that he’s contemplating between committing suicide or ending his his marriage to the talented singer. tiwaa In the past couple of years, Tee Billz, who manages Tiwa Savage, has been accused of domestic violence – but both parties have never spoken on the matter. At some point, it was rumoured that Tee Billz was intimidated by the fame and success of the singer, hence his resorting to inflicting physical pains on her. Again, this claim has never been confirmed. See some of his posts teebillz teebillz3 teebillz2 teebillz5

Read more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/04/tiwa-savages-hubby-threatens-to-commit-suicide-over-wifes-alleged-infidelity/

TYRA BANKS ADDS ANOTHER GOOD ✓ TICK TO SURROGACY

After struggling with fertility for a period, Tyra Banks with Erik Asla, a Norwegian photographer and her boyfriend, reached a consensus and thereafter, a few weeks after a successful gestational surrogate period, Tyra in a lovely picture, looking every inch natural like the Tyra we've always known, simple, beautiful with those lovely eyes of hers, on Sunday February 14th which was valentine's day finally through her instagram page let us catch a first sight of her 'newly arrived' baby boy.

The baby boy named York, whom she said has her "fingers and big eyes" and "mouth and chin" like Asla's, who is the father of the baby, was shown in the picture (as seen on the left) wrapped and snuggled into his mother’s bosom as she was caught staring in a direction with an expression which read "so I finally made it" or "this really feels good".

The 42 year old top model in her exact words on instagram wrote, “This is the Happiest Valentine’s Day of my life, York, Daddy @erikasla and I send you so much love.”

In an interview she had with PEOPLE some time ago after York was born said “As I gaze into the beautiful eyes of my son, I think about all the people who struggle with fertility or carrying a child and continue to pray for them every day. My hopes and dreams are filled with well wishes that they get to feel what my little treasure, York Banks Asla, feels like in my arms.”

She had at that time of the interview while thanking the "angel of a woman" that helped in carrying their "miracle baby" to term, mentioned that the little boy has her “fingers and big eyes and Asla’s mouth and chin" and also prayed for everyone struggling to reach "this joyous milestone" even as she welcomed "York Banks Asla to the world.” 

 

Now, that's another 'thumbs up' for surrogacy and further encouragement for all those struggling with fertility, especially those who can afford it.

Here is a quick understanding of what surrogacy means, for all those who do not have an idea. Surrogacy is the carrying of a pregnancy for intended parents/couple by a third party and there are two main types of surrogacy, gestational and traditional surrogacy. According to medical definition, gestational surrogacy is the pregnancy which results from the transfer of an embryo created by in vitro fertilization (IVF), just like in the case of Tyra Banks and Alsa whose embryo and sperm were used respectively, in a manner so the resulting child is genetically unrelated to the surrogate as all she does is to help the couple carry the baby to term.

The second type of surrogacy which is traditional surrogacy, the surrogate is impregnated naturally or artificially, but the resulting child is genetically related to the surrogate as her embryo was used which would at the end of the day involve more legal agreements before and after the child is born, hence gestational surrogacy which is considered less legally complex is a lot more accepted by couples in different parts of the world, especially the United states.

Also in gestational surrogacy, the female may get an embryo from a donor which can be used with the sperm from her partner/husband for the IVF so that the surrogate will still be unrelated genetically to the surrogate.

Now for all those who still desire to have babies and can afford it, you can choose any of the aforementioned and be happy. Some women have died avoidable deaths in trying to get pregnant and have babies at all costs even when it is medically unsafe for them to do so. It's time for every society to accept surrogacy, make the methods cheaper thereby making life sweeter and more meaningful for all those couples and people suffering with one form of infertility or the other.

Well done TYRA and ASLA for adding another  ✓to the number of existing ticks on surrogacy.

And finally, welcome to the world baby YORK!