Written by: Shalom Folashade
As we live every minute
of every day we discover that our immediate environment changes. And just as
the environment changes so do people change. Gone are the days when young girls
and ladies, were truly young girls and ladies who accepted and acted their ages
especially in the 90’s - as much as I can remember – when girls even though
many looked matured body wise, they, at least a very large number, were very
matured intellectually. Sadly, the same cannot be said about this present
generation of young girls, as nowadays more than 80% of them cannot just wait
to grow up. Do we blame it on technology, society or parents? You tell me.
Imagine seeing a girl
in secondary school who is barely eighteen trying to act twenty-one, I mean it
amazes me how young girls are willing to go any length just to mature fast. They
believe there are certain processes they need to go through to get to the stage
of maturity on time. You would be surprised to hear that a lot of them make
concerted effort have sexual intercourse at a very early stage just to feel more
like a woman, they date older men and of course some even go as far as running
away from home because they feel they can now make decisions on their own.
Don’t get me wrong I am
not against young girls fixing 22 inches length weave or dressing to impress, I
mean these things are all part of growing up as a teenager and wanting to
explore because they become conscious of their environment and want to do right
by everybody, but teenagers need to understand that there is more to life than
all they see, they don’t realize that the world out there is not easy and that
life does not give a free pass to anyone no matter how many connections you
might have, life in one word I would say is “messy.”
Gone are those days
when young girls dreamed to have a stable family, always had life goals that
they would go to any length to make sure they achieved, and that is because
there were a lot of illiterate parents that struggled to send their daughters
to school, I mean these days we go to expensive schools, even in this economy
some families are not affected by the meltdown and so there is no value placed
on parents’ effort. Young girls of this century just want to live in the
moment.
And as funny as this may sound
some parents are so unaware that they do not know what is going on in the lives
of their teenage children, so many young girls and guys dress shabbily, they
now do drugs, they even raise their voices at their parents and counter their
decisions. I mean why won’t such a child feel like he/she can make decisions
for themselves. We feel comfortable blaming so many children now for the way
they are but we forget that these children have parents that have refused to
pay attention to them. We are the architects of our misfortune and so when
these teenagers grow older they begin to have life time regrets.
Wishing they did things
differently which is the right way.
Let us place more focus on what is ahead of
us, yesterday is gone and tomorrow will come after all and so we can’t escape what
tomorrow holds for us because whatever we meet in the future is as a result of
the decisions we make now.
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