Every now and then,
there is always this tendency to ‘lose it’ especially when things don’t go the
way as planned. When I say ‘lose it’ I mean, break down in tears, shout at
nobody in particular, eat unhealthy junk foods and you name it as people have
different ways of letting off the steam.
And then of course you
would know immediately that all is not well with that individual so you can ask
questions such as “what’s the problem, how may I help, have you considered” the
list is endless. And thereafter, the person may or may not get the help
required depending on whatever the case or situation may be at the time. Nevertheless,
for some people, there is some kind of relief from just talking about it even
though the listener does not provide help at the end of the day while for
others it may just be an added frustration having listened without providing
any solutions to the issue.
Well, that’s for those
who can speak up, which is just one group of people.
Now another group is
those who will NEVER speak up or show any signs of whatever they may be going
through as speaking about their problems is not a ‘way of life’ for them. So they can appear happy and in charge or
control yet may just be dying inside slowly as they never want to burden people
with their challenges. They make people happy but then go back in their closets
and cry or shout. Now before you go judging or the way of crucifixion, wait a minute.
Many a times, people
have learnt from experience that it’s in very few cases that “a problem shared
is half solved” as they may have encountered disturbing and painful situations of “a problem shared is
well publicized” which becomes very embarrassing and leaves the individual feeling
more aweful than he/she was before sharing in the first instance. So when you
find such people, don’t always assume the persons are too arrogant or proud or
whatever as the individuals may just be avoiding further pains by keeping to themselves
and trying to find solutions to their challenges on their own.
Then again, for such
private individuals, it takes a true friend to perceive beyond all that façade of
trying to appear happy and in charge or control, is a sad personality who may
be withering away slowly on the insides. When you find such a friend, hold on
to him or her as they are rare to find.
When such friends are
able to detect the ‘pains behind the smile’ just a GENUINE word of
encouragement may just be all that is required to change the perspective of
things hence a life changed and helped for the better.
This write-up is just to
encourage you out there, that no matter what you are going through, there is
always that one person to talk to despite the many who may not help but may
subject you to ridicule thus becoming a laughing stock. However bad the
experiences have been in the past, always listen to that still small voice and
it will direct you on whose direction you should go when in need of a
confidant.
Please don’t die in
silence anymore, I have been there before and I can tell you categorically, “it aint fun”. My prayer is that you find
or recognize that true friend that you can always talk to.
Finally, even though
many are of the school of thought that when you tell people your problems, 80% don’t
care while the other 20% are happy it’s happening to you, I still admonish that
whenever you need help, please by all means, seek it.
Never forget, after you
are done praying, talk to somebody today. We all need somebody and one another.
No man is an Island neither does a tree make a
forest.
©Stella Ene – Inyang
A couple of hours ago,
reports from the UK Telegraph revealed that this young man whose
birth was celebrated by his father a former Brazilian football striker, Legendary
José Roberto Gama de Oliveira also
known as Bebeto, about 23years ago, just signed a contract with Sporting CP; a
contract that is expected to last up until 2022.
His excited father
Bebeto expressed his joy in a tweet “So proud of you, son!!! Continue
working hard and with humility you will go far!! Then you can enter into the
history of Sporting!!” 
